Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?

Questions regarding heterosexual relationships have been surfacing every now and then, a never ending mystery. In fact, both genders actually have very different perception, values and practices.

For example, the topic of sexual fantasies. Generally, men have more visual sex fantasies, and most of the times genital-themed and filled with explicit visualization. Women, however, fantasize less than their male counterparts. They are less visual, less focus on genitals and more likely to construct a story with emotional feelings of a romantic encounter. There's a saying that, most men needs sex to feel wanted, while most women needs to feel wanted before having sex. However, it doesn't imply that all men are sex-craving beasts and all women are not nymphos. 

However despite the fact male and female are hypothetically worlds apart, we embrace each other's presence. If we put deep thoughts into it, such differences actually complete one another. For example, you like to cook but hate to clean. Your other half prefer to clean, cause cooking is alien to him/her. Things work out naturally sometimes, don't they?

Knowing the differences, both genders are actually seeking for the same thing from their counterparts;

  intimacy - the state of comfortable familiarity

In relationships, argument happens. Sometimes you feel your man is behaving like a total prick, or your lady is acting like a total bitch. Bear in mind, there's a reason that 2 people are called "A Couple". The usage of preposition "a" symbolizes singular unit. Each person in a relationship makes up 50%, 2 person making it a complete 100%. So, if you feel your partner is at fault, you might not realize you that you could be contributing 50% to the emergence of argument. It takes 2 hands to clap. When dispute happens, I believe both parties are at fault and should be responsible in rectifying problem with each other. Tolerance is the key.

Wouldn't you rather lose an argument than to lose your other half?

Make admends, clear the air if things are rough. Do not be ignorant and collect all the matters into a big-bad-bag-of-trouble, there's when you realize you're in a point of no return and being regretful and sorry is all you can do.

We can go on whole day debating on what men want, and what women want. What actually do we seek from our counterparts?

Men presumably the more dominant gender, is usually the breadwinner. They strive for achievements, recognition and reputation. Most of the time, man's business should not be interfered, sometimes you gotta let a man be a man. Excuse the egoism, men are born this way. However, men do have a soft side too, being by their side (but not appearing too clingy), knowing the way to their heart is a great way to compliment them. Ladies can be very vocal at times - it's good to voice out but if excessively, your words are redundant and could be whiny - something men don't fancy.

A female is deemed as the backbone of the dominant male, supportive, a figure of love and tenderness. But of course times have changed and females can be as successful as male or even more successful. Most women actually have simple needs; you don't need to catch a grenade or put your hand on the blade for ladies. Extravagant gifts, romantic candle light dinner are bonuses but not necessary needs. Ladies actually needs to be cared constantly, wishing their man put themselves in her shoes. Men, pay attention on the tiny details, fulfill them and your lady will be utterly contented. Example, a chocolate lover be brought to a chocolate fondue? Amazing to realize how small things can bring big joy. Simple yet complex player of this game of love.

In a nutshell, men want to be appreciated, women want to be adored.

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Good relationships don't just happen, they take time, effort, patience and two people who truly want to be together.

Single ladies and men - heads up. You might feel worthless to one person, but you are priceless to another. Never ever forget your value.

Lovebirds - adore, cherish and appreciate your other half. Express your love like there's no tomorrow. Never ignore a person who loves you, one day you might wake up from your sleep and realize that you lost the moon while counting the stars.

I sincerely want to grow old with you ;)

On the hook.

Inspired by the ever comedic and entertaining series - How I Met Your Mother (Season 5 Episode 16), I'm here to share with you a very interesting term.

No, this is not a blog post about fishing.

On the hook

Definition : A person who is "on the hook" will be overly infatuated with another person. That person who is desired usually cares much less and sometimes take advantage of the person who is on the hook.

The person on the hook is hopelessly obsessed with the other person. The devotion is pretty much one sided. When you are on the hook, you usually think a lot about what the other person thinks, and would do almost anything to please the person they desire.

Ever felt as if the people you fall for never falls for you, while the people you are not fond of fall for you instead? Everyone has been on the hook, and of course kept someone on the hook. It's one vicious cycle.

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Person on the hook :

Being on one's hook comes almost involuntarily and naturally. The person you eyed or desired probably possess a specific captivating trait that you don't see in other people, an X-Factor perhaps? You probably are aware that the desired person is out of reach, but you still want to chase for it, falling for the 'bait'. Well, it's human nature to be constantly challenging ourselves right? We never know what we can achieve if we never take a leap.

Pleasing the person you fall head over heels for seems like the only thing you want to do. But honestly, look around you. You have people who love, appreciate and care for you! Wouldn't they deserved to be pleased and appreciated more? Never neglect the close ones around you, your family, your close friends - they are your lifeline.

Sometimes all you need is a wake-up call or a slap on your face (figuratively), don't be blinded by the desired person. You're born with good senses, put them to work! If you are wooing a possible partner, by all means, go for it, I don't mean to hinder it. Because if we never try loving, we never realized who we could end up spending our lives with, right? But at a point if you feel like you're clapping with only one hand and experiencing unreturned love, you should consider retreating. Hurtful but possibly wise move. It's better to be alone than to love alone.

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Desired person :
(I shall include 2 very desirable personalities of both genders to be fair to keep you reading :P)

Which of you girls are on hunky Ryan Reynolds' hook? ;)

Adriana Lima sure could easily get any men on her hook effortlessly ;)

Being able to have someone on your hook usually mean you're somehow attractive which could definitely boost self-esteem and ego. It's nice to know you're liked but sometimes if you abuse the feelings of the person on the hook, it is unethical.

If you have no interest on the person who is on your hook, cut him/her off early. Break his/her heart now before they get an even deeper wound. You might think being nice and playing along with the person who is on your hook is a better solution, NO. You're cultivating a bigger, more severe infection on them by misleading them. If you enjoy doing so, you're definitely cold-hearted, insensible and all the negative remarks I can think of.

If you have someone on your hook but you don't notice it when everyone else around you does, alarm your senses and be more alert. Never mess with others' feelings as you never want yours to be messed with, right?

Perhaps you can cut someone off by gradually showing them signals that you are not keen or interested. Sometimes don't give them even the slightest hope because a person on your hook will still hang on and be hopeful he/she will prevail one fine day. In most cases they won't, sadly.

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Are you on the hook, on someone's hook, or both?