Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?

Questions regarding heterosexual relationships have been surfacing every now and then, a never ending mystery. In fact, both genders actually have very different perception, values and practices.

For example, the topic of sexual fantasies. Generally, men have more visual sex fantasies, and most of the times genital-themed and filled with explicit visualization. Women, however, fantasize less than their male counterparts. They are less visual, less focus on genitals and more likely to construct a story with emotional feelings of a romantic encounter. There's a saying that, most men needs sex to feel wanted, while most women needs to feel wanted before having sex. However, it doesn't imply that all men are sex-craving beasts and all women are not nymphos. 

However despite the fact male and female are hypothetically worlds apart, we embrace each other's presence. If we put deep thoughts into it, such differences actually complete one another. For example, you like to cook but hate to clean. Your other half prefer to clean, cause cooking is alien to him/her. Things work out naturally sometimes, don't they?

Knowing the differences, both genders are actually seeking for the same thing from their counterparts;

  intimacy - the state of comfortable familiarity

In relationships, argument happens. Sometimes you feel your man is behaving like a total prick, or your lady is acting like a total bitch. Bear in mind, there's a reason that 2 people are called "A Couple". The usage of preposition "a" symbolizes singular unit. Each person in a relationship makes up 50%, 2 person making it a complete 100%. So, if you feel your partner is at fault, you might not realize you that you could be contributing 50% to the emergence of argument. It takes 2 hands to clap. When dispute happens, I believe both parties are at fault and should be responsible in rectifying problem with each other. Tolerance is the key.

Wouldn't you rather lose an argument than to lose your other half?

Make admends, clear the air if things are rough. Do not be ignorant and collect all the matters into a big-bad-bag-of-trouble, there's when you realize you're in a point of no return and being regretful and sorry is all you can do.

We can go on whole day debating on what men want, and what women want. What actually do we seek from our counterparts?

Men presumably the more dominant gender, is usually the breadwinner. They strive for achievements, recognition and reputation. Most of the time, man's business should not be interfered, sometimes you gotta let a man be a man. Excuse the egoism, men are born this way. However, men do have a soft side too, being by their side (but not appearing too clingy), knowing the way to their heart is a great way to compliment them. Ladies can be very vocal at times - it's good to voice out but if excessively, your words are redundant and could be whiny - something men don't fancy.

A female is deemed as the backbone of the dominant male, supportive, a figure of love and tenderness. But of course times have changed and females can be as successful as male or even more successful. Most women actually have simple needs; you don't need to catch a grenade or put your hand on the blade for ladies. Extravagant gifts, romantic candle light dinner are bonuses but not necessary needs. Ladies actually needs to be cared constantly, wishing their man put themselves in her shoes. Men, pay attention on the tiny details, fulfill them and your lady will be utterly contented. Example, a chocolate lover be brought to a chocolate fondue? Amazing to realize how small things can bring big joy. Simple yet complex player of this game of love.

In a nutshell, men want to be appreciated, women want to be adored.


Good relationships don't just happen, they take time, effort, patience and two people who truly want to be together.

Single ladies and men - heads up. You might feel worthless to one person, but you are priceless to another. Never ever forget your value.

Lovebirds - adore, cherish and appreciate your other half. Express your love like there's no tomorrow. Never ignore a person who loves you, one day you might wake up from your sleep and realize that you lost the moon while counting the stars.

I sincerely want to grow old with you ;)

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