Happy Father's Day, Pa!

I've written a Mother's Day blog post, I believe it is fair to write one for my dear papa too.

Meet the macho Lum Senior.

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The man I look up to and respect most - my father.

My father is more than just a man with big specs, frequently seen reading the newspaper at his favourite desk.

A quiet, calm and composed man he is, but he has taught countless number of lifelong lessons, important values, shaping the person I am today.

Your ability to put up to each and everyone's menace amaze me. Throughout 21 long years of my life, living with my father, no matter how furious he is at me, he never hit me before. Indirectly implying brute force is not the best solution. He scolds me, warns me the consequences of my wrong-doings all along. Pa, the way you brought me up opened my eyes. You seek the most rational solutions at toughest times, you teach me to realize myself - what is right and what is not. You taught me to be considerate, you taught me to be a better man.

Starting a family, raising a child is definitely no easy task. Having 4 children is definitely gonna be rough and tough. Despite all the headaches like household expenses, bills, debts, rising cost of living, and so on, you deal with them thoroughly. Pa, I look up to your work ethics, you never fail to put food on the table for the family. Unlike conventional fathers, my father actually lay his hands on house chores even after long day from work. Love the fact that you arrange frequent vacations for the family to spend quality time together. You also never fail to remind us the importance and ways of staying healthy.


Selfless man, my father is. The countless of sacrifices he makes for the family - invaluable.

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My father, despite his age (he's over 60), he stills indulge in weekly badminton! Did I mention he has an exceptional affection towards fish? Particularly loves tasting fresh steamed fish!  Lived through the 1970s, my father is actually a fan of Elvis, Beatles, Bee Gees and so on. So here's a clip of Bee Gees performing "Stayin' Alive", enjoy :)

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The root to the achievements, success of all of us (Wai, Cheng, Foong and myself) are all from the guidance from my beloved parents. No words can describe my gratitude towards their contributions to our lives, sincerely thank you.

I love you dearly, Pa.

Happy Father's Day to all deserving fathers out there!

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?

Questions regarding heterosexual relationships have been surfacing every now and then, a never ending mystery. In fact, both genders actually have very different perception, values and practices.

For example, the topic of sexual fantasies. Generally, men have more visual sex fantasies, and most of the times genital-themed and filled with explicit visualization. Women, however, fantasize less than their male counterparts. They are less visual, less focus on genitals and more likely to construct a story with emotional feelings of a romantic encounter. There's a saying that, most men needs sex to feel wanted, while most women needs to feel wanted before having sex. However, it doesn't imply that all men are sex-craving beasts and all women are not nymphos. 

However despite the fact male and female are hypothetically worlds apart, we embrace each other's presence. If we put deep thoughts into it, such differences actually complete one another. For example, you like to cook but hate to clean. Your other half prefer to clean, cause cooking is alien to him/her. Things work out naturally sometimes, don't they?

Knowing the differences, both genders are actually seeking for the same thing from their counterparts;

  intimacy - the state of comfortable familiarity

In relationships, argument happens. Sometimes you feel your man is behaving like a total prick, or your lady is acting like a total bitch. Bear in mind, there's a reason that 2 people are called "A Couple". The usage of preposition "a" symbolizes singular unit. Each person in a relationship makes up 50%, 2 person making it a complete 100%. So, if you feel your partner is at fault, you might not realize you that you could be contributing 50% to the emergence of argument. It takes 2 hands to clap. When dispute happens, I believe both parties are at fault and should be responsible in rectifying problem with each other. Tolerance is the key.

Wouldn't you rather lose an argument than to lose your other half?

Make admends, clear the air if things are rough. Do not be ignorant and collect all the matters into a big-bad-bag-of-trouble, there's when you realize you're in a point of no return and being regretful and sorry is all you can do.

We can go on whole day debating on what men want, and what women want. What actually do we seek from our counterparts?

Men presumably the more dominant gender, is usually the breadwinner. They strive for achievements, recognition and reputation. Most of the time, man's business should not be interfered, sometimes you gotta let a man be a man. Excuse the egoism, men are born this way. However, men do have a soft side too, being by their side (but not appearing too clingy), knowing the way to their heart is a great way to compliment them. Ladies can be very vocal at times - it's good to voice out but if excessively, your words are redundant and could be whiny - something men don't fancy.

A female is deemed as the backbone of the dominant male, supportive, a figure of love and tenderness. But of course times have changed and females can be as successful as male or even more successful. Most women actually have simple needs; you don't need to catch a grenade or put your hand on the blade for ladies. Extravagant gifts, romantic candle light dinner are bonuses but not necessary needs. Ladies actually needs to be cared constantly, wishing their man put themselves in her shoes. Men, pay attention on the tiny details, fulfill them and your lady will be utterly contented. Example, a chocolate lover be brought to a chocolate fondue? Amazing to realize how small things can bring big joy. Simple yet complex player of this game of love.

In a nutshell, men want to be appreciated, women want to be adored.

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Good relationships don't just happen, they take time, effort, patience and two people who truly want to be together.

Single ladies and men - heads up. You might feel worthless to one person, but you are priceless to another. Never ever forget your value.

Lovebirds - adore, cherish and appreciate your other half. Express your love like there's no tomorrow. Never ignore a person who loves you, one day you might wake up from your sleep and realize that you lost the moon while counting the stars.

I sincerely want to grow old with you ;)

Adidas All24 AllRun - 4 hour relay

Adidas All24 is an epic scale celebration of style, street and sport! Among the competitive events are futsal, skating, basketball, dance-off, running and so many more! The condition of the event is it is open only for youths aged 24 and below, sorry oldsters :P. Held on the 4th June at Rakan Muda Sports Complex, Bukit Kiara.

Without must effort guessing, I signed up for the AllRun, with Louis, Murphy, Kaartig, Khityeng and Khai Sim. I find this format of race fun and enjoyable. After running 1.4km, we have approximately half an hour to recover, regain composure and run the following 1.4km lap.

Meet the Roadrunners :)

It is a 4 hour relay, with 6 runners in a team, we're required to cover as many laps of 1.4km as possible.

L-R : Louis, Khai Sim, Kaartig, Michelle, Murphy and myself.

The above picture display our running order, first myself, till last Louis. Knowing there will some of the country's top runners running, it is very unlikely to win top 3 places. Our goal was to have fun and we absolutely did :).

We completed 37 laps of 1.4km, which means we ran a total of 52km in 4 hours. The final result was we got 9th out of 45 teams, still top 10 pretty creditable :).

Lady luck wasn't on our side, Murphy, injured his foot a couple of days before the race. Determined and persistent dude he is, he ran 6 laps with a swollen foot! Hail his sporting spirit there.

At the starting point, right before the flag off.

Being the first runner, I finished the first 1.4km lap in 4mins 36secs coming back 4th. But later on the pace of other runners caught up and we can only afford to clinch 9th place:\.

Why you so smelly?

While waiting for Khityeng/Kaartig to complete their lap :)

Us- after the 4 hour relay :)

 Each of us ran 6 laps which equal to 8.4km each, but I ran an extra lap, covering 9.8km. Really enjoy the relay, fun to push and see how far we can run. A break from those regular relay races :).

This is Murphy and I waiting for our supper at SS2 Murni

That's all for now folks. I've got to go OCBC Bank tomorrow to settle my internship stuff. Woohoo sorry for the short and simple post, will be back ;).